WHAT IS A MEN’S GRIEF GROUP ABOUT &

WHY WOULD I EVER WANT TO DO THAT TO MYSELF?

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The masculine griever has a tough row to hoe.  We first must acknowledge that, while it’s possible that we could get through this ourselves, it’s tough to do it alone.  The odds of success go way up with good support.  We then must recognize and react to all the BS society subjects us to: ‘men don’t cry’, ‘man-up, suck it up, and move on’.  Then we need to find a safe place, trusted companions, and a forum to express ourselves.

When I try to articulate the benefits and support I’ve received from the guys who’ve joined me in the EricsHouse Men’s Group I come face to face with my own limitations.  I found the following in Richard Rohr’s Daily Meditations (9/16/20), based on a talk by his friend, Jim Finley (with edits by me):

When you risk sharing what hurts the most in the presence of someone who will not invade you or abandon you, you can learn not to invade or abandon yourself. Even deeper down, when you risk sharing what hurts the most in the presence of someone who will not invade you or abandon you, you can discover within yourself . . . the pearl of great price, your invincible preciousness in the midst of your fragility.

Through humility and vulnerability the true strength of being empowered, our manhood comes forth.

That Manhood gives us the courage to face the most broken and lost places within ourselves, discovering through that acceptance the oceanic tender mercy that sustains us in that brokenness, so that by learning to be this way ourselves we can pass it on to others. We can be someone in whose presence it’s safe to be vulnerable and to be open, and truly courageous and strong and powerful.

That’s why we do this.

We are starting two new Men’s Groups this spring at EricsHouse:

  • Men Understanding Our Grief – a closed group for up to 12 guys that will meet for 8 consecutive weeks in a virtual format. This group is designed for those early in their grief journeys, struggling to accept the reality of their loss and learning to embrace their pain while remembering their lost loved one.
  • Men Growing Through Grief – a closed group for up to 12 guys that will meet for 8 consecutive weeks in a virtual format. This group is designed for those who are ready to integrate their grief into a new version of themselves and begin the search for meaning and purpose in their grief journey.

We’ve chosen a virtual forum for these groups because it allows us to reach men across North America . . . and because we’ve proven it can work very effectively in our existing groups.  The groups will be facilitated by Ken Slesarik, an overdose loss survivor and EricsHouse Grief Companion, and Greg Eckerman, cofounder of EricsHouse, a suicide loss survivor, and EricsHouse Grief Companion.

If you, or a man you know, are struggling with grief from sudden loss, or loss to addiction or suicide please consider one of these Men’s Groups.  Contact Greg Eckerman at greg@ericshouse.org or call 480.734.3423 for more information and to discuss whether these groups might be right for you.